You're at your liveliest among people. And you take every small reaction in the room to heart.
You're the first to notice whose face has gone stiff or who has dropped out of the conversation, and you move first to lift the mood.
You're known as the one who keeps the group lively. The truth is, you can't stand it when the room gets awkward, so you're watching it the whole time.
What you're good at
You notice the mood of a group and change it. You keep the conversation going in awkward moments and bring in the people left out, so any gathering you're at relaxes without anyone having to try.
What you often hear
- “Things liven up when you're here.”
- “You're going over it again at home, aren't you?”
What wears you out
You get tired after the gathering, once you're alone. It was fun at the time, but at home you go back over it, 'Did someone get hurt by what I said?', and that drains more energy than the gathering itself.
For the people around you
You notice changes in the other person's mood quickly and take care of them first. But if they seem even a little unenthusiastic, you think, 'Did I do something wrong?', and spend the whole day worrying over something that meant nothing to them.
Worth trying
At one gathering, let go of being the one who keeps the mood up. The room does fine without your effort, and once you see that, time with people gets much lighter.