Your time alone is when you recharge, and it's also when you go looking for new things.
On a trip you take alone or with a hobby you learn on your own, you dig into things more deeply than you could with others around.
So you have many deep interests you built up on your own. But they rarely overlap with other people's, so when you try to explain what you love, you think, 'They won't get it anyway,' and end up not saying anything.
What you're good at
You can dig deep into a new field on your own. You follow your curiosity without having to match anyone else's pace, so once you're into something, you come to know it more deeply than anyone.
What you often hear
- “How do you know all this stuff?”
- “I'm not really following.”
What wears you out
Long conversations about things that don't interest you leave you drained. Part of you keeps thinking, 'If I were alone, I'd be doing that thing right now,' and the time spent keeping up with other people's topics feels wasted.
For the people around you
You can introduce the other person to things they never knew about. But because you'd rather enjoy them alone than explain them, the other person may not find a way in: 'How do I get to know this person?'
Worth trying
Pick the easiest thing to enjoy from what you love and suggest it to the other person. You don't need to explain all of it; doing just one thing together makes them want to know more about what you love.