You look after the people close to you in the ways you always have.
On birthdays you bring a cake from the shop you always buy from, and when someone is sick you bring the soup you always make. For you, these familiar ways are how you show you care.
The people on the receiving end are grateful that you never change, but sometimes what they want has changed and you're still looking after them the old way.
What you're good at
You stay by people's side for a long time, in the same steady ways. The way you look after people doesn't change with trends or with your mood that day, so people can trust how you feel about them even as time passes.
What you often hear
- “You still look after me, just like always.”
- “Thank you, but you don't need to do that anymore.”
What wears you out
It stings when you've looked after someone the way you always have and they don't seem happy about it. Your feelings haven't changed, but once you start wondering, 'Do they not like this anymore?', you have no idea what to change or how.
For the people around you
You bring steadiness and security to a relationship. But if you can't keep up with how the other person changes, they may feel, 'This person only remembers who I used to be.'
Worth trying
Every so often, ask first, "What would you like these days?" Care just as much as always and simply check now and then how they'd like it, and you can look after them the way they want today.