Being with people gives you energy, yet small arguments and mood changes in the room don't shake you much.
So when someone gets touchy, you don't get sharp along with them, and you quietly bring the mood back to normal.
People feel at ease around you. But on the days you're struggling, often no one notices.
What you're good at
You bring calm to a room full of people. You stay steady and still enjoy being among people, so even after a conflict, people come back together around you.
What you often hear
- “I feel at ease with you.”
- “Don't you ever get stressed?”
What wears you out
Your energy runs down when you go a long time without seeing anyone. Being alone doesn't fill you back up, so you may look calm, but inside you're thinking, 'I'd like to see someone, anyone,' while your energy slowly drains.
For the people around you
You can accept the other person however they are. But because you always seem fine, they easily forget that you need someone to lean on too.
Worth trying
On low days, try saying, "I don't have it in me to listen today." Turning someone down once won't break the relationship, and it gives them a chance to look after you.