Time alone recharges you, and when you're dealing with people, you look out for them first.
So you rarely put yourself forward, but if someone needs something, you quietly have it ready before they ask.
The people around you are grateful to you. Even so, they often never really find out what you want: 'So what does this person actually want?'
What you're good at
You take care of what's needed without making a show of it. Because you quietly take care of what others need without putting yourself forward, people often notice your thoughtfulness only much later.
What you often hear
- “When did you get all this ready?”
- “Tell me what you're thinking.”
What wears you out
Long stretches of going along with people drain you faster than you'd expect. There's no time alone to recharge, your energy keeps going into looking after others, and before you know it, it's all gone.
For the people around you
You make the other person comfortable without putting any pressure on them. But because you don't talk about yourself first, they may not know how to reach you: 'How do I get closer to this person?'
Worth trying
Tell them about one thing you did for them. Just one line, "I picked this because I thought you'd like it," and they finally know about the care you showed quietly.