You don't settle things in advance; you go along naturally with whatever the other person wants at the time.
So wherever you go and whoever you're with, you rarely clash, and when plans change, "Sure, let's do that" is the first thing you say.
People feel at ease with you. But often, even when something needs deciding, nothing gets decided and time just goes by.
What you're good at
You adapt to any situation. You don't insist on a plan and you go along with the other person, so even when the schedule suddenly changes, the mood around you doesn't fall apart.
What you often hear
- “You're fine with whatever, huh?”
- “So what are we actually doing?”
What wears you out
Making a decision on your own is the hard part for you. You've gone along with others for so long that when it's your turn to set the direction, you don't know where to begin: 'Where do I even start?'
For the people around you
You make it easy for the other person to do what they want. But when you leave everything to them, they start to feel the weight of deciding alone: 'In the end, I have to decide everything.'
Worth trying
Decide one small thing yourself, first. Whether it's dinner tonight or where to meet, deciding just one thing takes some of the weight of deciding alone off the other person.